Sanin sani ne cewa mutane da ke kewaye da ku na iya "tada" kanku, kawai ƙaunar kansu, da gaskiya kuma a hankali! A yau, dangane da tushen burin da aka yi wa mutane da yawa, mutane da yawa sun zama masu tsaurin ra'ayi da kansu, suna da kwarewa a samoyedstvom har ma da hallaka kansu. Irin wannan cututtuka na ƙiyayyar wa kanmu yana bayyana ta hanyar kwarewar kyawawan dabi'un, da sanya ka'idoji maras kyau a kan mu, da kuma gaba daya: dangane da bayyanar, da kuma yanayin bunkasa tunanin mutum, da kuma batun kudi. Sau da yawa daga irin wannan matsala yana fama da wadanda ba su da aure a lokacin haifa, ko kuma wadanda wa anda suke rayuwa "ba tare da amfani ba" kuma suna tsangwamar da matsalolin rayuwa. Wadannan mutane ba su san yadda za su kaunaci kansu ba, suna da girman kai.
Karɓa da ƙaunar kanka ba wuya, amma yana bukatar ya koyi. A farkon tafiya dole ne mutum ya fahimci kansa, ya fahimci dalilin da ya jawo masa azaba, sannan sai "ƙauna" da kansa da sauransu. Akwai fasaha na musamman, yin abin da, zaka iya fahimtar yadda kake son kanka. Ayyukan Psychological, mafi mahimmanci, muna ba ku a cikin wannan labarin.
Kuma yanzu mun ci gaba da kai tsaye zuwa ga darussan
- Na farko motsa jiki ana yin kamar haka: zauna a gaban babban madubi, dubi muhimmancin ra'ayinka, ƙoƙarin yarda da kanka, bayyanarka a matsayin gaskiya. Bayan minti biyar, gaya wa kanka a cikin madubi game da ƙaunarka ga kanka, game da yadda kake daraja kanka, baƙin ciki, kauna. Yi magana akan kanka da suna ko kiran kanka da ƙauna, kalmomin da ake so. Yi aiki a kowace rana, sannan kuma, bayan 'yan makonni, zaku ji yadda sannu-sannu da halinku game da kanku da kuma halinku ga wasu sun fara canzawa don mafi kyau.
- Ga wani motsa jiki, ba komai ba, don yin shi mafi kyau, hada shi da farko. Alal misali, lambar motsa jiki 1 da safe, da kuma motsa jiki na lamba 2 a maraice. Don haka, ɗauki peni da takarda, raba raba takardun zuwa sassa guda biyu. A cikin rabin rabi zaku rubuta jerin hamsin halayenku masu kyau, masu kyau. A cikin sauran rabin - duk halaye da kaddarorin da ba ka so a kanka. Yanzu daga zuciya, keta dukan kalmomi daga jerin jimloli na biyu. Don haɓaka sakamako, tsaga rabin rabin "ƙananan" kuma ƙone shi ko jefa shi a cikin datti. Amma duk abin da aka rubuta a jerin farko, karanta kowace rana! Masanan kimiyya sun bada shawara don ƙara kanka
Ɗaya daga cikin kowanne kwana uku. - Aiki na karshe shi ne aikin yau da kullum kan sauya yanayi. Duk abin da kuke gani ba daidai ba a cikinku ya kamata a juya tunani cikin dabi'a! Alal misali, idan ka yi la'akari da kanka don jinkirta, ka yabe kanka don kasancewa da kyau game da komai, da sauransu. Don tsabta, zaka iya ɗaukar alkalami kuma canza halinka a rubuce.
Hakanan duk shawarwarin, koyarwa yadda za a so da kanka, ayyukan da aka ba da su a nan zai taimaka wajen magance wannan matsala mai wuya.