Ƙara ƙwaƙwalwa da ƙin amincewa da ƙarfin kansa shine kawai ƙarshen dutsen kankara, wanda masana kimiyya ke kira "mai karfi mai tsaurin kai." Wannan wata mawuyacin hali ne wanda zai iya shafar aikinka, cimma jituwa cikin rayuwarka da kuma sadarwa tare da abokanka.
Menene ma'anar kasancewa mara lafiya?
Gwargwadon abubuwan da ke tattare da tunanin mutum, wanda mutum ya dogara da ra'ayin wasu kuma ya yi wa kansa mummunan ra'ayi, shine mafi yawan dalilai na sha'awar masu ilimin kimiyya. Ƙananan girman kai da shakka game da kai - wani abu mai ban mamaki wanda ya haɗa da abubuwa kamar:
- Matsalar juna (rashin jin daɗi a tattaunawa da dangi da abokai).
- Kuskuren ra'ayi (tsammanin kullun daga kowane aiki, dabi'un da ba daidai ba da jagororin, rashin dacewar hali ga kansa).
- Abubuwa masu lahani (rashin fahimtar halayen zamantakewa).
- Canje-canje na motsi ( jin tsoro , ƙara damuwa).
Lafiya - fahimtar juna
Psychology ya bayyana wannan matsala a matsayin "kasancewar shakka game da ci gaba a cikin kwarewarsu, bayanai na waje, basira, dakarun da kuma iyawar aiwatar da tsare-tsarensu" - kamar yadda masana na wannan wuri ya bayyana manufar "rashin shakka". A cikin cututtuka na ci gaban wannan ciwo, mai wahala zai iya watsar da wani aiki kuma ya janye kansa. Masanan kimiyya suna da ra'ayi biyu na ra'ayi a kan abin da ke shakka:
- Magoya bayan ka'idar farko sunyi imani da cewa wannan matsala ce mai tsanani, haifar da wani cin zarafi a cikin halin mutumtaka. Rashin hankali game da gaskiya a tsawon lokaci zai iya haifar da ƙasa ga wasu matsalolin ƙwayar tunani.
- Wakilan na biyu na yanzu suna gani a rashin tsaro a kan kansu karfi ne kawai abũbuwan amfãni. Suna ganin a cikin gwagwarmayar yau da kullum da tsoro da damar da za su bunkasa halayyar jagoranci kuma suyi yadda za su tsayayya da gazawar.
Dalilin rashin tsaro
Domin fitowar ƙasa don bunkasa wannan hadaddun ita ce lokacin rayuwar yara, lokacin da aka samu hali. Ayyukan dabi'un da mutum ya gani a lokacin da aka fara da shi a cikin ƙirar yaron ya kuma juya cikin hoto. Tambaya kan kai tsaye za a iya haifar da wani mummunar amsa ga duk wani aikin aiki ko misali na iyaye masu fama da rashin ƙarfi. Daga cikin wasu dalilai da suka bayyana abin da ake shakkar shakka, an kira su:
- jahilci ga kanku da kuma ƙungiyar mutum ta ciki;
- rashin ma'anar rayuwa;
- rashin iya gane ainihin dabi'u da kuma muhimmancin;
- rashin yiwuwar kare iyakoki;
- gyare-gyaren aikin tsaro.
Alamomin kai shakka
Tsoro da rashin tabbas suna jin dadi sosai kafin aikin, jarrabawa ko hira. Kuma ko da yake wannan yanayin ba shi da jima'i ko shekaru musamman fasali, ana iya bayyana alamomin ta a cikin wani babban jerin:
- rashin ikon yin jin dadi yayin tattaunawa;
- kauce wa alhakin aiki da iyali;
- Sau da yawa na ƙarfafa ba da kyauta ga ra'ayi na masu fita waje;
- Hoton madubi na rashin tabbas - tsayin daka kan halayyar kai tsaye;
- amincewa da yin watsi da ra'ayoyinsu.
Yadda za a rabu da kai kan shakka?
Kowace hali zai iya yin la'akari da maigidan ƙaddarar zaɓin (tsakanin yanayin tsere da haɗari), zai iya kuma dole ne yayi ƙoƙari don magance matsalar. Mataki na farko zuwa wajen kawar da rashin tausayi na zuciya shine gano amsar wannan tambayar dalilin da yasa shakka babu shakka. Gudun daga phobia ba lallai ba ne - yana da daraja don samun fahimtarwa, don ganewa, saboda abin da ya bayyana, a wace yanayi ke ƙaruwa, kuma daga abin da yake ragewa. Fahimtar yadda za a shawo kan rashin tabbas a cikin kanka, zaka iya gina wani shiri don samun iko akan ɗakunan:
- Fita daga yankin mai jin dadi . Rashin ƙyamar al'amuran al'ada da al'ada zasu haifar da sabon rayuwa kuma zai janye hankali daga damuwa akan fargaba.
- Kafawar hulɗa da jiki . Mutanen da ke da ƙwayoyin gida za su ji daɗin ƙarfin makamashi idan sun fara wasa da wasanni ko rawa.
- Nunawa a cikin rikice-rikice . Samar da hotunan hoton mutum mai kyau, yanayin wasa wanda ke haifar da nasara yana taimakawa wajen magance nasara ta rubutun kowane halin da phobia ke nuna kansa.
- Bayyana shirin . "Horarwa" a kan sadarwa tare da sababbin sabawa yana kawar da shinge lokacin da ka fara hulɗa da baki.
Tsaro - Orthodoxy
Muminai suna nema su sami amsoshin tambayoyi a cikin addininsu wanda suke da dangantaka. Ikklisiya ta gaskanta cewa girman kai, shakka game da halayyar mutum kamar zunubi ne, saboda sun hana mutum farin ciki na rayuwa. Littafi Mai-Tsarki game da rashin shakka ya nuna dan kadan, amma firistocin sun yarda akwai ayyukan da suke da haɗari - likitoci, masana kimiyya, direbobi da masu kula da zirga-zirga. Addini yana ba da shawara ga sababbin hanyoyi na magance matsaloli:
- addu'a ga tsarkaka - Nicholas da Wonderworker , Mai girma Martyr Panteleimon da Uwar Allah;
- sadaka da taimako a coci cocin;
- tattaunawa tare da jagoranci na ruhaniya.
Littattafai game da kai-shakka
An rubuta a cikin harshe mai sauƙi, aikin masana kimiyya yana taimakawa wajen magance matsalolin rayuwa da kuma koya yadda za a gwada kanka. Littattafai suna ba da damar yin la'akari da matsalolin da mutane da yawa a cikin rayuwar yau da kullum suna ji tsoro don ko da tunani game da:
- "Taimakon likita ga dangi" Irina Germanovna Malkina-Pykh. Marubucin ya tattara shawarwari masu dacewa game da sassaukar matakai masu muhimmanci a rayuwa da kuma kula da kai.
- "Mutane za su yi kamar yadda kuke so." John Robert Parkinson. Babu wani littafi mafi kyau game da shakka game da mutumin da yake so ya koyi yadda za a yi nasara kuma ya haifar da zuciyar ciki.
- "Abinda ke kasancewa" Vladimir Levi. Mahaliccin littafin ya taƙaita ilimin masana kimiyya daga zamanin d ¯ a har zuwa yanzu, domin ya ba kowane mai karatu damar samun daidaituwa.
- "Kwarewar kai tsaye" Manuel James Smith. Littafin ya koya maka ka mallaki motsin zuciyarka kuma ya gaya maka yadda za a daina jin tsoro daga sukar waje.
Movies game da kai shakka
Hotuna game da nasarar da aka yi a kansu a kan lokuta daban-daban, amma basu rasa matsala ba. Hotuna game da rashin shakka daga wannan jerin suna bada shawara don kallon mutane daga dukkanin shekaru daban-daban:
- "Coyote Ugly Bar" . A cewar labarin, wata yarinya daga lardin gari ta zo birnin New York, inda ta sami aiki a daya daga cikin garuruwan gari. Don cimma nasara ta yi mafarki game da ita, dole ne ta shawo kan laushi da rashin daidaituwa a kanta.
- "Mata daga kallon Kalanda / Calendar" . Wannan hoton yana dogara ne akan abubuwan da suka faru na ainihi kuma yayi magana game da mata suna da matsananciyar zuciya don kammala sadarwar sadaka ga masallacin. Don jawo hankular jama'a, za su iya sarrafawa kawai don kwantar da hankulan su da kuma yin wasa don kalanda don kare kuɗi.
- "Ƙididdigar Gaskiya / Kayan Gida na Gaskiya" . Wani matashi mai ƙwarewa mai suna Lily Black yayi magana da kyau, amma yana jin tsoron nunawa da sayar da ayyukansu. Don shawo kan muryarta, ba ta iya yin rayuwarta tare da iyayenta: mahaifiyar yarinyar ba shi da giya, kuma mahaifinsa ba ya fita saboda tsoro na kwayoyin cuta.
- "Rayuwa mai ban mamaki na Walter Mitty / Asirin Rayuwa na Walter Mitty . " Walter Mitty ya kasance mai ladabi a matsayin mai sayarwa na karamin shagon, yana mafarki game da yadda rayuwarsa zai canza. Da zarar ya gaskata da ra'ayin kansa, yadda abubuwan ban mamaki suka faru da shi.