Kullin Carpman wani samfurin ne na dabi'un mutane, shi ne nau'i na burbushi wanda zai iya kallon mafi yawan rikice-rikicen dake faruwa a rayuwar mu. Harkokin rikice-rikice na iya samun nau'ikan hali da sikelin, zasu iya zama ko bayyane ko ɓoye. Misalin takalmin Carpman zai taimaka mana mu fahimci kome.
Tasirin tauraron Karpman
Kamar kowane ɓaɓɓuka, ɓangaren triangle na Carpman na da kusurwa uku, wanda ke nufi da misalai guda uku a cikin sadarwa. Mutane da yawa ba su gane gaskiyar cewa suna da hannu a cikin wasan kwaikwayo na tunani a cikin abin da suke yi, suna canza sauye-sauye, saboda haka suna karɓar motsin zuciyarmu da kuma damar da ba za a iya yankewa ba wajen warware matsalolin kansu. Masu halartar triangle na Carpman suna:
- Mai bi (P). Mafi kyawun sahihanci da rawar daɗi. Mai neman, a matsayin mai mulkin, bai ma san cewa shi ne irin wannan ba, bai gane cewa "ta hanyar laifinsa" wani rai zai iya hallaka.
- Yin hadaya (F). Kowane wanda aka azabtar ya tabbata cewa ita marar laifi ne, ta ci gaba da yin laifi ga wani mutum, ba tare da sanin cewa tushen dukkan matsalolinta ba shine kuskuren ra'ayi na duniya. A cikin duniyarmu babu wani abu mai kyau da mummuna, akwai hakikanin gaskiya game da wannan ko wannan taron.
- Mai ceto (C). Mai ceto shi ne wanda wanda aka azabtar da shi zai fara ko kuma daga baya ya fara farauta, a cikin abin da shi kansa zai juya zuwa wannan. A gaskiya, idan ba don mai ceto ba, watakila magungunan zai daina wanzuwa, domin idan bai zo daidai lokacin da wanda aka azabtar ba, watakila ta manta da bakin ciki kuma zai ci gaba, amma yana kula da "a lokaci".
Abin mamaki, duk waɗannan haruffa suna canja sauye-sauye. Don fahimtar yadda kullin Carpman ke aiki da kuma yadda za a guje wa shiga cikin wannan motsin zuciyarmu, bari mu dubi tauraron mai ban mamaki na misalin Carpman:
- Old Psychiatrist (P) - Abokin ciniki (F) - Sabon Mashahuriyar (C).
- Wife (P) - Maza (F) - Farka (C).
- Husband (P) - Wife (F) - Abokin Wife (C).
A matsayinka na mai mulki, a cikin irin waɗannan mutane suna dagewa don dogon lokaci, suna canza matsayin sau da yawa. A sakamakon haka, ba lallai basu magance matsalar ba, amma suna samun motsin zuciyarmu wanda ke haifar da hasken haske mai ban sha'awa.
Kwayar Carpman yadda za a fita?
Don samun hanyar fita daga wannan maƙallan, dole ne ku bi sha'idodi masu zuwa:
- Da farko, kana bukatar ka fahimci cewa kana da hannu a ciki, kuma ka ga yadda za ka rasa duk wani mukamin.
- Canja dabi'unsu, fara fara aiki bisa ga matsayi da kuma tsufa (yaron ya dace - a matsayin dan tsufa, mai girma - da hikima da haziƙa - a matsayin uba da uwa).
- Tsaya kasancewa "zombie", fara farawa kamar mutum mai rai na al'ada. A cikin dangantaka kafa mafita mai nisa, tare da mutane masu kusa su kula da zumunta, mutuntawa kuma kaunace su.
Kuna iya koyon wasu fasahohin da na bayar da shawarar hanyar tabarbarar kayan aikin Carpman:
- kirki dubi halin da kuka taka wannan ko wannan rawar. Kuma da gaske dariya da ita;
- yi ƙoƙarin neman "amfani" a kowane hali kuma ya samo wa kansu wata mahimmanci ta hanya mai mahimmanci kuma ta dace
amfana don cirewa; - ji jikinka, daidaita kafadu, daidaita, dauki zurfin numfashi da murmushi. A cikin kalma, jin damuwarka kuma ka sami ƙarfin fita daga matattun maras lafiya.
A gaskiya ma, triangle Carpman wani kayan aiki ne mai kyau wanda zaka iya watsar da nauyin alhakin abin da ke faruwa a rayuwarka. Wannan samfurin ya ba mutumin da ke da jagora ya shiga cikin nauyin motsin rai, kuma ya manta cewa yana da dangantaka ta kai tsaye ga dukan abin da ya faru da shi. A warware matsalar kuma sami hanyar fita daga cikin "da'irar", za ku iya ganewa da kuma nazarin dukan halin da ake ciki.