Lalle ne kun kasance da labaru lokacin da ba ku aikata abin da kuke nufi ba. Alal misali, sun bar shagon tare da sayan da ba dole ba. A hankali ya fara hira game da rabu da ƙare kuma ya ƙare ta da sumba na amincewa. Sun zo taron tare da ra'ayoyinsu, kuma sun fita tare da wani. Idan haka ne, to, ba ku da jin daɗi da matsa lamba. Game da abin da yake, wanene daga cikinmu yana son a yi masa hukunci, kuma menene hanyoyi na matsa lamba a kan mutum, za mu yi magana a yau.
Samun matsa lamba - shine tasiri akan wasu matakan da ke cikin dabi'un mutumtaka, yin amfani da wani mutum don sarrafa halin mutum. Mafi kyawun manufa ga irin wannan manipulators su ne mutanen da suke munafukai, wanda ya dace da kai-kankara da / ko sadaukarwa, ba tare da tabbacin kwarewarsu ba.
Hanyar da fasaha na matsa lamba a kan mutum
- amfani da laifi. Wannan shi ne mafi yawan nauyin matsalolin halayyar mutum cikin iyali: lokacin da mijinki ya zarge ku don bawa lokaci zuwa aiki, iyaye suna samun abin da suke so ta hanyar tunatar da su game da lafiyarsu mara lafiya, yara suna zargin ku na aiki na har abada, da dai sauransu. A wannan yanayin, kana buƙatar fahimtar kanka, mutum yana danna kan abin da ya fi zafi a gare ka;
- shawara da maimaitawa. Mafi kyawun misali shine talla. Kwararru a talla sun san yadda za suyi matsa lamba ga mutum: sake maimaita, maimaita, maimaita ...
- Hanyar tambayoyin tambayoyi. Wadannan tambayoyin tambayoyi masu tsattsauran ra'ayi, wanda, a daya hannun, yana da mahimmanci a amsa, amma a daya ... sauti na iya karɓa don yarda. Alal misali: "Yaya za ku kasance mai jinkirin-ƙulla", "kun san yadda kuka bar mu", da dai sauransu.
- kai tsaye barazana. Wannan shi ne matsalolin motsa jiki wanda ya dace da barazanar ko bala'i;
- harin kai tsaye. A lokacin yin la'akari da halin da ake ciki, kira, tunatarwa, tattaunawa tare da buƙatar yin la'akari da shawarar da aka fadi a kanku;
- aryace karya. Mata ba su san yadda wani lokaci namiji ba ya son yin aiki a kan maza.
Ya kamata a lura cewa samar da matsalolin halayyar mutum ba koyaushe ba ne. Kawai 'yan tunani ne kawai ta hanyar dabarar halayyar hali, a matsayin mulkin, magudi yana faruwa a matakin ƙira.