Amsar tambaya ga irin ƙaunar da ake ciki a cikin dangantaka, kididdigar ba ta ba da tabbaci - kawai kimanin shekaru 3, bayan haka kashi 45% na nau'i-nau'i suka fadi. Duk da haka, sabon ra'ayoyin yana bayyana, yana bayyana abin da ƙauna yake, da kuma tsawon lokacin da ya ƙayyade shi.
Yaya tsawon lokaci soyayya take cikin aure?
Daga ra'ayi na physiology, ƙauna shine sakamakon "hadaddiyar giya" wanda yake haifar da jini, abin da ya sa rikice-rikice, rashin rashin barci , lalacewar jiki, wani yanayi na euphoria da sauran alamu na wannan ji. Wannan halin ƙauna mai ƙauna yana da ɗan gajeren lokaci - har zuwa watanni shida. Kuma idan ƙaunatacce bayan wannan lokacin ya kasance tare, an haɗa matakai daban-daban daban-daban.
Mafi yawancin lokuta, tambaya akan irin ƙaunar da ke ƙauna, yana ƙoƙari ya amsa ilimin halin tunani. Masanan sun bambanta matakai da yawa na ƙauna, wanda ya maye gurbin juna:
- ƙauna, sha'awar - wannan mataki yana daga 'yan kwanaki zuwa makonni masu yawa, yana da karfin tunani game da abinda ake so, rashin yiwuwar tunani game da wani abu (wani misali mai kyau irin wannan sha'awar - Romeo da Juliet);
- Ƙaunar da aka dade shi ne tsawon lokaci, yana da tsayuwa daga watanni da dama zuwa shekaru 1.5-2, wanda ke nuna bayyanar ƙauna, lokacin da mai son yana son cewa abin sha'awar zai dace da bukatunsa;
- Tsarin mulki zuwa ƙauna - wannan mataki na tsawon shekaru 1-2, yana nuna rashin karuwa a cikin tsananin sha'awa da sha'awar zama tare a kowane lokaci, amincewa, tausayi, son yin sulhuntawa zai fara karfafawa cikin dangantaka;
- ƙauna - wannan mataki na iya zama na tsawon shekaru masu yawa, idan fahimtar juna, mutuntawa da abota na kasancewa tsakanin ƙaunataccen, dangantakar a wannan mataki ba bisa ka'idodin jima'i ba ne, amma a kan abin da aka haɗe da kuma kiyaye jima'i.
Har yaushe ƙauna take rayuwa a nesa?
Ƙauna da nesa ba za a iya kiran shi da jin dadin jiki ba, duk da haka yana da yawa fiye da dangantaka tsakanin iyali. Mutanen da suka fuskanci ƙauna a nesa za a iya raba kashi biyu:
- "Fanatki" - mafi yawancin wannan rukuni ya hada da 'yan mata da ke da sha'awar kafofin watsa labarai;
- ƙaunataccen, rayuwa daban, amma tarurruka a lokaci-lokaci - a cikin wannan halin da yawa ma'aurata da dama suka fada, waɗanda zasu kasance da farin ciki tare da auren "nisa" ko dangantaka mai kama da juna.
Ƙaunar "fanatok" ba ta daɗewa saboda dadewa saboda rashin yiwuwar zama abin kunya a game da ƙaunar, domin ba su hadu da shi ba. Irin wannan zumunci ne har zuwa ilimin halitta, kuma zaka iya kawar da su ne kawai ta hanyar kusantar da ƙaunar mutum.
Rayuwa masu masoya daban-daban suna da matukar amfani a kan ma'aurata ma'aurata - ba su yin rantsuwa saboda matsalolin yau da kullum, kowane taro yana kama da hutun. Abin da ya sa irin wannan dangantaka tana da kyau. Duk da haka, a wannan yanayin, akwai wasu "fafutuka" - idan ma'auratan sun fara zama tare har abada, rikice-rikice tsakanin su zai kasance mafi tsanani fiye da ma'aurata,
Yaya tsawon lokacin soyayya yake bayan rabuwar?
A cewar kididdiga, bayan shekaru 10 na aure, kimanin kashi 70 cikin dari na ma'aurata suka rushe. Kuma ba koyaushe duk ma'aurata a lokaci ɗaya suna so su rabu, wanda ke nufin cewa ɗaya daga cikin matan ya ci gaba da ƙauna. Wadannan ƙauna na ƙauna na iya zama na tsawon shekaru, tun da aure a cikin wannan yanayin wani tsari ne wanda bai cika ba. Tare da matakai marar iyaka, ko gestalt, masu ilimin psychologist suna aiki, suna taimakawa wajen kawar da wannan mummunan yanayi, da kuma abubuwan da ke tattare da masu aiki - damuwa, damuwa, tashin hankali, da dai sauransu. Bayan samun taimakon likitancin mutum, mutum zai iya kawar da ƙauna mara dacewa bayan ya rabu da fara sabon rayuwa, kuma, da sauri ya faru, mafi kyau.