A yau, babu wanda ke da tambayoyi game da yadda ake yin bikin aure na farko, amma shawarwari game da yadda za a shirya shi kuma a riƙe da ma'aurata da yawa. Abin da za a yi a dakin bikin aure - don kallon taurari kuma kuyi sha'awar a karkashin sararin samaniya ko ɓoye daga duniya a cikin ɗakin kwana, ku yanke shawara. Kuma don ƙayyade shi ya fi sauƙi, ga wasu matakai da ra'ayoyin don shirya bikin aure na farko.
Wasu matakai game da yadda ake yin bikin aurenka
- A al'ada, an yi dakin dakin bikin aure na farko don yin yanayi mai ban sha'awa. Sau da yawa wannan shine nauyin iyaye na sabon aure ko shaidun, amma idan kunyi shakku cewa za a iya dandana dandanku, to, ya fi dacewa don sarrafa wannan tsari. Yi hankali ga shimfiɗar kwanciya, mafi kyau auduga, siliki ko flax tare da siliki. Kuma bari su kasance duniyar - da hankali ga zane ba a dame shi ba. Daukaka kiɗa don wannan dare, kawai abin da kuke so. Mutane da yawa ko da shawara suna zabar waƙoƙi ba tare da kalmomi ba, suna jin tsoron cewa a lokacin mahimmanci ma'aurata za su raira waka tare.
- Yawancin budurwa suna tunanin cewa bikin aure na farko yana wucewa kamar cikewar ƙauna da tausayi. Amma na gudanar da ba lokaci zuwa babban abu ba koyaushe ba - sababbin ma'aurata suna samun gajiya kuma shampagne a ranar hutu ne aka rarraba. Don hana wannan, ƙananan ruhohin da karin hankali ga juna. Kada ku bi duk ka'idodin karimci kuma ku zauna har zuwa bako na karshe, idan kuna so ku yi ritaya, to sai kuyi haka, kuna fatan baƙi su ci gaba da ci gaba da maraice. Da kyau, don a daina jin daɗin, ka kula da tebur a cikin ɗakin kwana. Bari akwai likitoci - cakulan, strawberries, cin abincin teku.
- Yaya za a yi bikin auren da ba a iya mantawa ba? Hakika, zai shirya shi sosai dominta. Amarya a cikin bikin aure yana da ban mamaki, amma ka tabbata cewa a karkashin rigar wani abu ne da za a dubi. Abun jigilar kayan ado da kuma tufafi mai tsabta a cikin gida mai cikakke ne saboda wannan dalili. Kyakkyawan salon gyarawa ba zai zama mai ban mamaki ba.
- Babu shakka, ba wanda yake so bikin auren ya ƙare da sauri, don haka yi la'akari da rubutunsa ko ingantawa a kan tafi. Bayyana wasan kwaikwayon wasan kwaikwayo, yin rawa a kan wani ƙaunatacciyar ƙauna, kallon haɗin gwiwa game da Kama Sutra.
Na farko bikin aure da kuma na farko jima'i
Haka ne, kuma a lokacinmu na jima'i, yana faruwa cewa wata yarinya ta rasa budurcinta kawai a lokacin bikin aure. A wannan yanayin, sau da yawa zaku iya jin ma'anar kalmomin nan "Ina jin tsoron bikin aure" kuma wannan ba saboda yarinya ba ta san yadda duk abin zai kasance ba. A akasin wannan, magoya bayan tsofaffi sukan fi magana game da abin da za su yi tsammani, amma ba daidai ba ne, suna ɓar da amarya da ciwo da jini a lokacin jima'i na fari. A sakamakon haka, yarinyar ta kintsa kuma tana jin zafi da ta ji tsoro. Don kaucewa wannan, kana buƙatar jefa dukkan "labarun lalacewa" daga kanka. Ka tambayi matarka ta gaba don taimaka maka ka huta, bari ya kasance mai ƙauna da ƙauna. Idan rushewar hymen yana faruwa a lokacin farin ciki, zafi zai zama kadan. Bugu da ƙari, zafi ba lallai abokin abokiyar jima'i ba ne - wasu daga cikin hymen ne na roba da kuma daɗaɗɗa ko ƙananan kuma an tsage kusan
Mafi kyau matsayi ga budurwa ita ce ta biyo baya. Yarinyar ya kamata ta kwanta a baya, ta ajiye wani abin nadi ko karamin matashin kai a ƙarƙashin gwiwarta, kuma kafafunta sun durƙusa a gwiwoyi kuma su dauke ta a kirji. A cikin wannan matsayi, an miƙa motsa jiki, kuma rupture ya faru da sauri, haifar da ciwo na gajeren lokaci. Bayan rushewar hymen, zubar da jini yana farawa, wanda yakan wuce da sauri, amma har yanzu ya sake nuna ƙaunar da ya fi kyau bayan kwanaki 4-5, lokacin da duk abin da zai warke.