Mutane da yawa suna tunanin cewa babu wani abota tsakanin mutum da yarinya, amma idan ka shiga cikin ilimin halayyar kwakwalwa, sa'an nan kuma a kan la'akari da irin wannan dangantaka sau da yawa ya juya zuwa wani abu. Hakan kawai dangantaka ne kawai zai iya bunkasa cikin hanyoyi biyu: ya zama cikin ƙauna ko ya ƙare cikin rikice-rikice . Shin, akwai abota tsakanin mutum da yarinya, idan babu dangantaka kusa?
Kowane mutum a hanyarsa ya fahimci kalmar "aboki". Wani yana da amfani don amfani da abokantaka don manufofin su, kuma wani yana shirye ya ba da kome ga abokai ba tare da neman wani abu ba. Amma, ba shakka, abokiyar abokiya ya kamata a rabu da shi, kuma jima'i na aboki bai zama mahimmanci ba.
Aboki tsakanin jinsi
Tambayar ko ko zumunci a tsakanin mutum da yarinya zai yiwu a yau bazai rasa muhimmancinta ba. Don amsa shi ta hanyar masana kimiyya daga kasashe daban-daban, an gudanar da bincike, wanda ba a sami amsar ba tare da wata amsa ba. Idan kayi tunani game da shi, amsar ba zata zama abin ƙyama ba, saboda a wasu yanayi akwai irin wannan abota.
Haka ne, wani ba ya gaskanta da irin wannan abota ba, wanda ba ya fahimta, kuma wani bai taba yin maganin irin wannan dangantaka ba, amma kawai ya tabbatar cewa babu wanzu ba zai yiwu ba.
A cikin yanayi daban-daban, dangantakar abokantaka za ta iya ɗauka. Abin tausayi shine tushen abokantaka tsakanin mutumin da yarinyar, wanda zai iya girma cikin wani abu.
Shin abokantaka yana yiwuwa a tsakanin tsohon saurayi da budurwa?
Wasu 'yan mata suna da tabbacin cewa tsohon magajin bayan ya rabu yana iya zama aboki mafi kyau. Bayan haka, zai zama kamar wanda ba zai iya fahimtar yarinya ba, sanin abin da yake so, dandano da abubuwan da zaba. Haka ne, yana faruwa bayan rabuwa, wanda ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunataccena, waɗanda suke tare, sukan zama abokai nagari. Haka kuma yana yiwuwa kuma lokacin da dangantaka ta kasance daidai
Sai dai a nan irin wannan abota yana da mummunan tasiri , saboda tsofaffin matsaloli na iya rushewa, kuma ƙarshen zai iya kasancewa ɗaya - ya ƙare duka rabu. Saboda haka, wajibi ne a yi la'akari da ko ci gaba da wannan abota.
Idan muka yi la'akari da abota na wani mutum da yarinya a gefe cewa duka abokai suna da rabi na biyu, to sai a yi la'akari da irin wannan zumunci da hankali, saboda an shirya dabi'ar don kishiyar jima'i za ta iya haɗi fiye da kawai sadarwa. Wajibi ne a fahimci cewa sha'awar da janyo hankalin na iya rinjayar dalili, kuma hakan zai haifar da lalata iyali.