A gaskiya, ma'anar da aka zaba domin wannan halin tunani da rai shine a fili ba daidai ba ne. Ko a'a, kalma, watakila yana bayyana ainihin matsala daidai, amma mutumin da yake fama da rikicin shekaru 30 ya riga ya yi baƙin ciki. Kuma lalle ne, mafi ƙanƙanta, yana so ya ji asirin "rikicin".
A gaskiya, rayuwar mu cike da rikici. Na farko da muke fuskanta a shekaru 3, sa'an nan kuma a lokacin samari. Sa'an nan kuma akwai "rikice-rikice" - a game da kimanin shekaru 22, yana jagorantar mu zuwa tafarkin sana'a. Matsalar da ta fara balaga - har zuwa shekaru 30, sa'an nan kuma shahararrun rikici na tsakiyar shekaru - daga 30 zuwa 40 shekaru. Ku yi imani da ni, idan kun rigaya ku shiga cikin rikice-rikice na hargitsi tun lokacin yaro, to hakika za ku fahimci yadda za ku magance rikicin shekaru 30.
Takaddun ra'ayi ko labari game da rikicin tsakiyar shekaru
Cutar cututtuka na rikici na shekaru 30 muna haɗuwa da sigogi guda biyu. Na farko - rikici na tsakiyar shekaru ne kawai a cikin maza. Na biyu ita ce, ga mata, rikicin shine sanin cewa tsofaffi yana zuwa a sheqa, kuma ga maza, ƙaddarar matasan matasa. A gaskiya ma, bayyanar da dalilan da ke jagorantar mu a cikin rikici sune mutum ne kawai kuma ba su tallafa wa kundin tsarin.
Cutar cututtuka
A cikin ilimin halayyar kwakwalwa, za ka iya samun mafi yawan alamun bayyanar cututtuka na rikicin shekaru 30:
- impermanence a dangantaka;
- sauyawa canje-canje na aiki da ayyukan, bukatun da hobbies;
- sauye-sauyen yanayi;
- annobar cutar tashin hankali;
- bakin ciki;
- rashin tausayi;
- damuwa;
- ma'anar sakaci, rashin daraja mutum;
- marmarin canzawa cikin komai daga kai zuwa ragu.
Bambance-bambancen, duk waɗannan bayyanar cututtuka na iya magana game da matsaloli masu yawa na maɗaukakin haske, amma a cikin tara - eh, wannan rikicin ne.
Zamanin zinariya ko rikicin?
Idan ka kwantar da hankali ka fahimci kanka, duk wanda ke fuskantar wannan rikici zai fahimci cewa akwai tunani game da burin da ya danganci rayuwar da ta rigaya ta samu. A wannan zamani, godiya ga rikicin, yawan yawan halaye na tunanin mu ya zama dabi'ar hali.
An halicci rikicin domin mutumin ya ci gaba da bunkasa, yana motsawa ga sabon nasarori, gwaji, kuma ya bar mu zabi guda biyu - ko dai za mu rayu a duk lokacin "a cikin rikicin", ko za mu ci gaba da inganta rayuwarmu.
Kwanancin shekarun da suka shafi shekarun zamani sun kware a cikin rikicin shekaru 30. Bisa ga binciken da bayanan da aka samu, a cikin mata matsalolin wannan zamani sun kasu kashi biyu:
- Masu kulawa da suka girma har zuwa 30
da sana'a da kuma kudi, sun shiga cikin baƙin cikin saboda ba su fahimci yanayin "iyali, yara, gida ba." Suna gaggawa kuma suna so su kewaye yara. - Ma'aurata, waɗanda suka fara aurensu ashirin sun fara aure, sun sami rai kuma suka haife su, suna jin kunya, saboda suna jin dadi. Suna tunanin cewa ba a daraja mutun da ke kewaye da su ba, ana ganin su ba kome ba ne.
Hanyar fita shi ne don biyan bukatunku. Careerist zai taimaka wajen haihuwar yaron, da kuma uwargida - sana'a, aikin ko kammala karatun daga jami'a.