Yana da wuya wani zai yi jayayya cewa jima'i wani bangare ne mai muhimmanci a rayuwarmu, tsawon zubar da hankali da kuma rashin lafiyar jiki, kuma ba mu da farin ciki. Amma ba wannan ba ne da yawa da aka biya biya wannan al'amari? Bayan haka, zamu ba da hujjar cewa farin ciki zai yiwu ne kawai idan akwai tashin hankali na jima'i, kuma idan komai yana da kwantar da hankula, to wannan yana da mawuyacin hali.
Liberation a cikin jima'i ko promiscuity?
Da yake jawabi game da haɓaka kowane nau'i, muna nufin halin da ba a rarrabe ba a wasu yanayi, wanda ya sa sadarwa ta fi dacewa. Amma idan yazo da jima'i, to, akwai matsala: mutum yana zaton wannan shine mafi girman bayyanar mace, wani ya kira irin wannan hali marar yarda. Hakika, mutum zai iya cewa - mutane da yawa, da yawa ra'ayoyin, amma muhimmiyar rawa a wannan batun yana kunshe da rikice-rikicen ra'ayi, mutane da yawa suna rikita rikicewa da cin hanci da rashawa.
Gaskiyar cewa mutane da dama da ke yanke hukuncin kisa - rashin la'akari da zabi na masu yin jima'i, ana kiransa lalatacciyar jima'i kuma ba shi da alaka da batun mu tattaunawar. Haka ne, haɓaka ta haifar mana da dama, a kan daidaito daidai da maza, don neman gamsuwa a cikin jima'i, da kuma zaɓi abokan tarayya da kuma jin dadin wannan bangare na rayuwa a cikakke. Amma sauyawar sauye-sauye da ke tsakanin ma'aurata ba kawai ya la'ane al'umma ba, yana kuma haifar da matsalolin lafiya. Wasu masanan kimiyya (Auckland, New Zealand) sunyi la'akari da irin wannan hali, saboda ba shi da dalilai na juyin halitta. Bugu da ƙari, nazarin ya nuna cewa ɓacin rai ya fi sauƙi ga mata waɗanda masu cin zarafin jima'i ne al'ada.
Rashin jima'i a cikin jima'i ba yana nufin cin zarafin jima'i ba, to amma ya shafi zumunci mai raɗaɗi, rashin jin tsoro da faɗakarwa ga sababbin sauti. Mace ta 'yantacce ta zaɓi mutum don kanta, kuma ba ta gaggauta zuwa mutumin da ta hadu ba. Wannan ba yana nufin cewa a kowane rayuwa akwai mutum daya kawai, kawai abokiyar abokiyar abokan tarayya amma ya nuna cewa kasancewa a cikin gidaje fiye da yadda ake yin jima'i. Tun da yawancin lokuta don cin hanci da rashawa shine tsoron da aka bace da kuma shakkar kai, mace mai wadatawa kawai bai buƙatar tabbatar da kansa da wasu ba.
Yaya ake nuna jigilar jima'i?
Ƙarƙwarar mace da 'yancin kai suna nuna kansu a cikin bayyanar, da kuma ra'ayi, da kuma hanyar sadarwa. Amma mafi bayyane wadannan siffofin suna nunawa a cikin masu zaman kansu tare da abokin tarayya, kuma inda za a nuna jigilar jima'i, yaya ba tare da mutum a gado ba?
Amma duk abin yana gudana, duk abin canje-canje, kuma idan an yi la'akari da jima'i a matsayin wani abu da aka hana, yanzu kusan kowane mace yana da shi a cikin arsenal. Saboda haka ga mace mai macen (ko wanda yake so ya zama ɗaya) yana da mahimmanci kada a yi amfani da na'urorin jima'i masu kyau, amma kada ku ji tsoro don gwada sababbin. Bayan haka, ma'anar emancipation ba dace da dabi'a ba, amma don karɓar jima'i da iyakar iyakar da kanta kuma ya sami damar gamsar da abokin tarayya. Shi ya sa mutane cikin murya daya
Don haka, haɓaka a cikin gado shine hanya mai kyau don inganta rayuwarku, me ya sa ba kowa ya yanke shawarar yin halin ta wannan hanya? Akwai dalilan da yawa na wannan, yana iya kasancewa na farko da bai samu nasara ba game da dangantakar, da mummunar yanayi a cikin iyali ko kuma Puritan. Amma sau da yawa abokin tarayya ba zai iya zama mace mai sassauci ba, ba ta jin dadi tare da shi, sabili da haka ba zai iya shakatawa ba. Saboda haka ba kullum ba ne a cikin rashin jin dadin da ya dace da zargi kanka, watakila kusa da ku ba kawai mutumin ba ne?